THE LANGUAGE OF SEX
The language of sex
Sex is something that mostly everybody thinks of as an act of pleasure, which indeed it is. But is that all sex amounts to? Well, I’m here today to tell you that there’s much more to it than meets the eye. Although, if you strip it of its complexity and simply go down to its core effects and purposes, then you could indeed say that sex is nothing but an activity meant to offer pleasure which encourages reproduction.
Such a simplification of the act, while not wrong, is generally caused by routines and bland, repetitive sexual interactions lacking of any sort of spice. There’s nobody to blame, really. Given how many obligations people tend to have, it’s normal that they’d resort to sex as a mere activity meant to relieve them of stress and daily frustrations. But keeping it that way would be a shame since sex is so much more than just a boost of serotonin.
This is more of a language, spoken not only between two bodies, but two souls and minds as well. It’s a form of communication meant to deepen the understanding you have of your partner and of yourself.
Exploring this possibility will unlock an entire new vocabulary, filled with exciting and beautiful ways of expressing your feelings, as well as desires. It might all sound crazy, but give it a shot and you’ll see for yourself just what I mean. You don’t know how to? Don’t worry, we’ll get there soon enough.
Learning the dictionary
No, I don’t literally mean to pick up a supposed dictionary of sex and learn each word in there. Not that there aren’t some books which can be pretty helpful in this regard. For example, the Kamasutra is known to offer quite some in depth explanations of sexual positions and the spiritual meaning that comes with using them as well.
That’s right, you heard me. Spiritual meaning in sex? Well, while it might not be truly spiritual, sex does offer the opportunity to deepen the emotional connection you have with your partner. Your understanding of their feelings and thoughts also has to benefit from this.
Something else that you should give some thought to are the positions you use during sex. I say this, because the positions used by you and your partner are as the words used in a sentence. In this case, the act in itself being the message you’re trying to send to your significant other.
But, you must keep in mind that there’s a trick to learning the secrets of this language. Mostly because it’s generally left to a subjective interpretation, but also because it’s dependent on how deep the connection between you and your partner is.
There are two roles during sex that can either be fixed in nature or you can switch them between each other depending on your tastes or mood. I’m talking about the dominant and the submissive roles. Whichever you choose or feel it suits you best, will generally both describe and define your personality.
Dominative
This is a role generally assumed by the male partner, although in some cases you can see the woman taking up this mantle instead, or even switching sides depending on the mood. Usually, the man is the dominant side in the relationship, especially from a sexual point of view.
So obviously it falls onto the woman to be the submissive one. This is due to the natural state of humanity. Since the dawn of time the woman was to be conquered and dominated. Something that is also seen in the overall roles that they had in what could’ve been called a society at the time: gatherers, caretakers and partners to be taken by men.
To a certain degree this has been somewhat of a hereditary condition, where in today’s society, a woman would much rather be fucked than the other way around. Which works well enough for men, since they feel an instinct to dominate. Knowing that this drive exists within your partner is crucial to understanding any underlying feelings or desires they may have. These can also be seen in their preferred positions and demeanor during sex.
Submissive
Since before mankind evolved into what it is today, humans instinctively knew that some are to be governed and others were meant to rule. This has remained true even to this day, where in a relationship, both partners must take one of two roles. Generally, the woman will be the one who submits to the man. Even more so when it comes to sex.
Knowing this will help you come a long way towards understanding what your partner wants and feels when you two get down and dirty. Exposing your vulnerable, submissive nature to him and laying bare all of your being for him to take can deepen your bond and guide you towards a healthier relationship.
While many might feel undermined by such a role, embracing it will most likely shed light onto your own feelings which you may have not even been aware of. Getting back to the topic of the language spoken through sex, it’s important to keep an open mind so that you can understand the message hidden behind you and your partners preferences.
A favorite position can tell you things that you may have otherwise never known about your man. As an example, given everything we discussed, if he chooses to do you from behind, face down, ass up, this obviously means he’d rather see you succumb to his wants and yearnings than the other way around.
What does this tell you? Well, nothing complex really. This is simply meant to shed light onto whatever is going on in his heart. It’s not something that he chooses just because it’s more convenient, but because it feels natural to him. That’s something that applies to everything you two decide to do in bed.
Remember to pay attention to that burning desire in your heart. That’s your instinct telling you what your deepest desires are and you would do well to listen to it if you want to experience what sex truly has to offer. Aside from the pleasure it usually comes with, of course.
